we dont have kids yet, but i sure hope our sex life doesnt come down to that
its depressing

This is insane.

I think it would feel forced and wouldn't enjoy it. BUT I could see it being needed. Time will tell I guess.

How about just promising to never be too busy for sex? No one can be _that_ busy....

I agree with all the ladies before me....I'm sorry, but you don't have to have sex every day to have a great sex life....it will just happen when it's supposed to....shouldn't be a planned activity that you need to put in your itinerary

I can't say I'm too busy for it that I need to schedule, but sometimes it's nice to schedule in time ... especially when you're the only one who knows there's a plan.

Talk about timing, I was discussing this problem with my boyfriend this weekend. He recently started taking Cialis which gives us a 36 hour window...but it is still pretty planned and forced. I think having (planned) sex is better than no sex at all, but it still sucks.

We never plan sex. Sometimes I only see my fiance once a week with me going to school full time and him working full time and commuting like 3 hours a day. I mean this situation kind of sucks right now, but when it happens, it happens.

I think planning sex makes it totally weird and awkward. Why not just go with spontaneity and passion?

Nope, never going to happen. Fortunately for us, we are the only two people at home with no children, parents or other family. Sex is something we don't have to schedule. It just happens whenever we want it.

They key to having planned sex is never making the plans out loud.

My boyfriend works every day on the weekend, and our school schedules totally clash. To top it off, we both commute to school from our parents' houses. His parents are both on disability so they're ALWAYS home. My dad is doing home renovations three days a week--one of those days happens to be when both my boyfriend and I don't have school. And we refuse to go to a motel that you pay for by the hour, lol. So, really, when I say, "Hey, my dad decided he would go to work this Monday, do you want to come over?" it's basically planning without saying "Do you want to have sex around midday on Monday? Ok, don't forget to write it in your planner." But when that Monday rolls around, you can bet that it doesn't feel forced--we just can't keep our hands off each other. God we're so sex starved it's terrible. Thank god, the semester's almost over.

I hope I didn't cross into TMI territory.

It should be spontaneous not planned. It can't be good sex if you need to plan.

I HAVE A SON AND MY HUSBAND AND I BOTH HAVE DEMANDING JOBS, BUT PLANNED SEX IS INSANE. TAKES THE FUN OUT OF IT DON'T YA THINK?

I can't plan sex. How... boring?

I hope it never comes down to this, but i dk...i can't really judge ppl who do have to plan it! I think it's better spontaneously...but who knows?

I don't mind. Planned sex or unplanned sex, I can only complain about NO SEX.